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Huna – Finding the Hidden Strength in the Mist
The Shadows of the Maramataka In the rhythm of the Maramataka, not every day is for planting, harvesting, or high energy. We have days like Huna. Huna is the moon of “hiding.” It is a day when the fish stay deep in the reefs and the light of the moon begins to wane. Traditionally, it…
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Ka mua, Ka muri
Kia whakatōmuri te haere whakamua: ‘I walk backwards to move forward’ When raised with parents who are “unprepared,” it typically means they lack emotional regulation, impulse control, and healthy communication skills. Because children learn how to navigate the world by mirroring their caregivers, these deficits aren’t just “missing” traits—they become a blueprint for how the…
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Te Takahi i te Mana: The Invisible Wound of Coercive Control
In my work as a Social Worker, I often hear survivors say, “He didn’t hit me, so I didn’t think it was abuse.” But when we sit down and look at the “fog” they are living in—the rules, the constant monitoring, the isolation—we find a different name for it. In a Western clinical sense, we…
Staying Safe and Sane 