Nau mai, haere mai. Welcome to The Kete.
If you are here, you are likely exhausted. Your head is probably spinning from navigating domestic chaos, trauma, or the heavy fog of survival. You might be trying to keep your kids safe, or you might be trying to stop yourself from numbing the pain with things that break you.
There are no clinical filters here. No textbook jargon, and no sugar-coated fluff. This page is a sacred basket—a kete—built to carry the heavy things you’ve been holding alone. Below, you will find the audio tracks to ground your mind, alongside the exact, direct lifelines you need to rebuild your safety and reclaim your wairua.
Look at the episode you need. Listen to the voice. Take the tools. You are not alone, and it is time to remember exactly who you are.
Episode 1: Squeezing the Shit Out of My Bones
The Tools: Accessing Help & Supports
- Women’s Refuge (0800 REFUGE)
- Shine (0508 744 633)
- Police (111)
Episode 2: Numbing the Battlefield
The Tools: My Internal Safe House
You can’t hold an external safe house if you are still a warzone on the inside. If you are using substances to survive the pain or masking unresolved trauma, the hiding stops today. Rebuild your internal foundation one breath at a time with these free, confidential national networks:
- Clear the Haze (Addiction Support): Call the Alcohol & Drug Helpline on 0800 787 797 or visit alcoholdrughelp.org.nz to find free community clinics right in your area.
- Face the Story (Counseling & Mind): Free call or text 1737 anytime to speak directly and securely with a trained, professional mental health counselor.
- Settle the Wairua (Holistic & Cultural Support): Search the national Healthpoint Directory under “Māori Health” or “Rongoā” to find free, Iwi-led physical and spiritual well-being providers in your hometown.
Episode 3: Guarding Your Wairua
The Tools: Tactical Safety Planning
Walking away is only half the battle. The real war begins in the quiet, when the adrenaline fades and old habits try to trick you into leaving your gates open. A real safety plan isn’t a suggestion—it is an iron-clad commitment to no communication and no engagement, no matter what. You only control yourself; you cannot control his actions. Lock down your digital borders, protect your tamariki, and build your fortress with these essential safety planning resources:
- Build a Tactical Safety Plan (Women’s Refuge): If you need help structuring a watertight, physical, or digital safety plan for you and your kids, call the crisis line on 0800 REFUGE (0800 733 843) or visit womensrefuge.org.nz.
- Hold the Line (Mental Health Support): Free call or text 1737 anytime to speak directly with a trained counselor when the loneliness hits, anxiety spikes, or the temptation to break your safety plan feels too heavy to carry alone.
- Anchor Your Spirit (Holistic & Cultural Support): Use the national Healthpoint Directory to locate Māori Health and Rongoā providers in your area to help rebuild your internal fortress and restore your wairua.
Staying Safe and Sane 