In New Zealand, many people stay in abusive relationships because they are terrified of what will happen to their pets. Abusers often use animals as a tool of control—threatening to harm, neglect, or “get rid of” a beloved pet if the victim leaves.
Fortunately, Aotearoa has world-class services specifically designed to remove this barrier.
1. Pet Refuge (National Service)
Pet Refuge is a dedicated charity that provides a safe haven for pets while their owners escape family violence.
- How it works: They provide a “Safe Beds for Pets” program. If you are going into a refuge or temporary housing where pets aren’t allowed, Pet Refuge will take your animal (dog, cat, bird, rabbit, or even livestock like horses/cows).
- Logistics: They handle everything, including safe transport from anywhere in New Zealand (often via Air NZ or Jetpets) to their secure, confidential location.
- The Care: While there, pets receive expert veterinary care, high-quality food, and behavioral therapy for trauma. They stay as long as needed until you find a safe home.
- Contact: Call 0800 PET REFUGE (0800 738 733 843) or ask a Women’s Refuge advocate to make a referral for you.
2. SPCA Support
The SPCA works closely with the Police and other agencies in family violence situations.
- Temporary Care: In some regions, the SPCA can provide temporary emergency boarding for animals in crisis.
- Welfare Checks: If you have already left and are worried about a pet left behind, the SPCA Inspectorate can conduct welfare checks.
- Contact: Call 0800 SPCA NZ (0800 77 22 69) for advice on emergency animal housing.
3. NZ Police and the Law
In New Zealand, the Family Violence Act 2018 explicitly recognizes that harming, or threatening to harm, a pet is a form of psychological abuse.
- Protection Orders: When you apply for a Protection Order, it automatically protects your children. You can also specifically ask that the order includes your pets. This makes it a criminal offense for the abuser to hurt or threaten your animals.
- Immediate Help: If an abuser is currently harming an animal to intimidate you, call 111. The Police have the same powers as the SPCA to intervene in animal welfare emergencies.
4. Financial Help (Work and Income NZ)
Leaving with a pet can be expensive (vet bills, new pet deposits).
- Special Needs Grants: WINZ can sometimes provide a “Re-establishment Grant” (up to $600 of which may not need to be paid back for sole parents) to help you set up a new home. While not specifically for “pet food,” this money can cover the essential costs of moving so your own money can go toward your pet’s needs.
- Transition to Safety Grant: If you are leaving a violent relationship, ask your case manager about specific financial help for “unforeseen costs” related to your safety—this can sometimes include securing your pet.
Important Tip: The “Pet Bag”
If you are planning to leave, try to gather these items for your pet and keep them with your own “Go Bag”:
- Vaccination records and microchip details (proof of ownership).
- A favorite toy or blanket (to help them feel safe).
- Any essential medications.
- A lead, collar, or carrier kept in a place where you can grab it quickly.
Staying Safe and Sane 